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How we feel about ourselves oftentimes shows how we carry ourselves. And surprisingly, feeling good impacts us more than we know. Eugenia is a wardrobe stylist and she believes in feeling good about oneself. In this video, she shares her thoughts and principles on this. Check it out!
Welcome back. So today, we’re talking about how to feel good about yourself. I’ve got my good friend Eugenia here. Which you’ll learn a little bit more about her expertise with wardrobe and what not. But the core foundation of anything that she teaches and has helped me and others with is first, you got to feel good about yourself. Alright. So, let’s dive into this one, Eugenia. First of all, I want to introduce Eugenia. Why don’t you explain who you are, what you do, what your background is. -So, my name is Eugenia and I’m a wardrobe stylist. And I work with people on developing a personal style. So, a personal style is who you are on the inside but demonstrating it outwardly, right? So, everything that you do professionally and personally should be showcased by the clothing that you wear. So, that is basically what I do. I work with both men and women on their image. And we’ve, what we’ve talked, we obviously talk a lot about the the specific tangibles of wardrobe and do things like that. But I’ve gotten a sense that There’s a much deeper side of it. -There is. -I’m kind of… First, you got to accept who you are. -That’s correct. I firmly believe that in order for you to even… Go get dressed, if you will. Even go shopping and develop a personal style. You have to accept who you are. You have to be okay with where your body is right now. Not tomorrow after a crash diet, not yesterday when you’re in high school or whatever. Where you are today. -So, it’s not get myself to a place where I can accept myself but just where I am right now. And I’m like feeling emotion with this already. It’s accepting Who I am and loving myself, is that what you’re saying? -That is correct. You are perfectly imperfect the way you are, right? And so am I. let me put it this way. Especially women, also gentlemen. But especially women, we are so hard on ourselves. We never seem to be good enough. And I’m here to tell you, you are good enough. You are wonderful the way you are. -So what do you say to people that you talk to? Or what would you say to somebody watching who doesn’t believe that? -Well you may not believe it. But it’s baby steps, right? So, I tell everyone that you need to be or you should, you should strive to be the best version of yourself every single day, right? So, we do things every day for us to be the… For us to be better. And to be ready for the day before we head out the door, right? We shower, we eat, hopefully we comb our hair, you brush your teeth. -I don’t comb hair. -Right? No you don’t have any hair there you comb. Lucky you. Um, we put on some makeup or we we press our clothes, we wash our clothes, we make sure that things look a certain way. Same thing goes with accepting our bodies and getting our wardrobe ready every day. -You talk about baby steps. What are some of these first babies.
-For example: So, I have… I often have people that come to me and say, “Eugenia, I really want to work with you. I really need some help with my image or I need to develop a personal style. Because I have no idea what I’m wearing every day and I don’t love what I have hanging in my closet. But first, I need to lose some weight, right?” There is not one single person that doesn’t want to lose some weight. And that’s okay. To strive to be healthier, that’s fantastic. But you know what? What if it takes you a while to lose that weight? What if you lose that way and it comes back? Then what are you going to do? In fact, that happens often. I have one particular story of a lady who she so badly wanted to work with me. And she said, “I am so excited to work with you. Give me six months and I’ll contact you.” 6 months went by, I hear from her and she says, “You know what? I… nothing tragic has really happened as far as my weight. And I feel like I’ve lost so many opportunities because of my image. I still don’t feel good about myself.” So, in essence, don’t wait till tomorrow. You still have to work today, right? You still have to show up today. You still have to present today and talk to people today. So, why wait till tomorrow? You know, live in the present moment. You know, if you are in that direction of losing some weight, so maybe you just buy a few key pieces. Or add some accessories. There is always something you can do and then you know as your weight progresses or declines, whatever that make that your story, your personal story maybe. Then you adapt to it. But don’t wait till things are perfect because they never will be. Perfection doesn’t exist. You are perfect just the way you are today. -So, it kind of seems like there’s a game that we might play in our minds… -Correct -…of, “Well, this part of me isn’t where I want it to be. So I can’t fix this part yet.” And maybe. I’m thinking maybe, I’ve had those thoughts in the past of I’m losing some weight, I don’t want to spend the money on this type of clothing because I’m going to be skinnier or whatnot and so maybe that might be the motivating factor. But really it’s… We’re not improving something here because we’re waiting for something else to improve. Anyway. -The world doesn’t stop. People keep going. Things keep happening, right? So, why are you going to be stuck? And let me tell you. When you make those changes of a feeling good of starting to wear clothes that really empower you, guess what happens often? You start losing the weight. And when you’re we’re the right fit, the appropriate clothing which most people were close to big anyway. Which makes you look like you are actually bigger than you are. You look like you’ve just lost weight. By just wearing the right size clothing. But it’s a motivator. Style is a huge motivator to be even better. -So, let’s go that direction for a minute. Because I have to admit. I’ve worked with Eugenia. And I’ve experienced some things that I didn’t expect. I wanted to improve my image. I’ve got a motion tone up here I wanted to improve it for professional reasons. This is… I think this is actually the very shirt. I was in the airport going through security. And the guy… One of the security guards is like, “I love your shirt. That is an amazing shirt.” And it’s so strange how a little thing like that, because I was wearing this shirt. It’s not like I bought these clothes so that I could feel good about myself. But just taking care of my image and having people take notice of it. It actually makes me feel pretty good. -Yeah, it’s nice to say, “Oh, you look great today. You look beautiful.” I mean, it makes you feel good. At the end of the day, it’s all about a feeling, right? And that’s how we respond and how we connect to others. -So, why do you think, why do you think the way that we look is so important? -We all make assumptions, right? Of each other. Whether we want to or not. People make assumptions of us, we make assumptions of others. Based upon the way we look or the way others look. And those assumptions can either push us away or bring us closer. But first and foremost ,I’ll go back to what we started talking about. It’s about you. You’re number 1 and you matter the most, right? If you feel good nothing else matters. -So some thoughts that come to my mind is is you’re explaining there is maybe that there’s kind of a balance. Because on one hand, because we kind of judge a book by its cover a lot, we make a lot of those those judgments, we want we want to look our best. But on the other hand, it’s not a competition. It’s not that like, where we get into trouble. At least where I can get into trouble is where I’m comparing myself to somebody else. -Don’t. There’s only one Nate Woodbury. -Yeah. -And that’s you, right? -So, I can… Maybe I can compare myself to myself. Like, “Okay, should I go to this business meeting in my pajamas or should I really look look my best?” Obviously, it’s going to get different results. I guess the takeaway is really accepting Who I am, showing my best, where I’m at and not making judgments against myself because of what I see other people doing… -If you make judgments, you won’t progress. You’ll see, you’ll be stagnant. So make a judgment as to, “Oh, my gosh! Look at how what I looked like in last conference or whatever and my last TV interview or whatever. Hmm, can I look better?” Always. Can always look better.
So, I have a question that I don’t know what your answer is going to be. So, I’m really curious. If this is a new concept for me and I’m wanting to up my image. I’m wanting to accept myself where I am. Guess the question that I have for you and would love your your take on is, “Is it a long process? Is a short process?” Meaning, can I just make a choice that this is what I’m going to do? What… I mean, well that… What will that do for me? -It’s always an ongoing progress, right? I don’t think you will ever… I don’t think I will ever say, “I’m there.” Because I will never be. And in essence, that’s perfection. You’re never going to be there. Perfection in a sense that you’re always done. You’re perfect the way you are. That doesn’t exist. So, it’s an ongoing progress. So, every year, every season. Depending on what your lifestyle is and what your budget. You should revisit your wardrobe, your image, how are you portraying, how are you looking, how are you sounding to the world? As an expert and as you know, in your personal life, you’re never going to be there. It’s an ongoing progress. I think we’re always need to keep in check of being better. It’s an ongoing progress. -Awesome. Well, thanks so much Eugenia. I really appreciate your input on this. It means a lot to me. And I know to my audience. -Well, thank you. -Alright. So, if you found this episode helpful, definitely be sure to subscribe. I mean, you’ve watched this far in this video, you might as well hit that subscribe button. And I’m actually going to be filming several episodes with Eugenia. So stay tuned for those because she’s got a lot of great things to share.